Bed Time Battles
Separation anxiety in toddlers is a very real thing. Let’s face it bedtime can be the most stressful time of the day if you have toddlers. When my kids were younger I would tell them that they could do what they wanted in bed, but if their feet touched the floor they would get a spanking. Here are some of things I did with my children to help ease their stress of separation anxiety and keep the bedtime battles at a minimum.
- I would put the extra photos of them in a cheap 99 cent album so they could look at the pictures before they would fall asleep.
- I made a tape of my voice praying over them and they could play the tape on their portable hand held tape player while they were in bed.
- I would lay down with each child for 15 minutes every night before they went to bed. This gave each child one on one time with just them and mommy. They loved it!! Each child wanted to do something difference. My daughter wanted me to read to her. My middle son TJ had an Ernie puppet that he liked to talk to. He would tell Ernie things he would never tell mommy, it didn’t occur to him that it was Mommy who was asking him all the questions as she made Ernie’s mouth speak. My youngest child just wanted to cuddle. I would always set the timer so the boundaries were clear, that when the timer went ding, it was time for mommy to get up and for them to fall asleep on their own.
- Clown face was another bedtime ritual. I would take my finger and “draw” a clown face on their face. I would give them, big red cheeks. Draw the big white eyes, the big red lips and then I’d end by popping the red round nose on their nose. After doing this 3 times they were nearly asleep, since this would help them to relax and they had to keep their eyes closed for the white eye shadow.
We never really had any huge battles at bedtime.