Failure to Launch or Soaring Solo – Pt. 2

Instilling Vision – Part Two

Another strategy for helping to instill vision into your son or daughter is to allow them to interview people who are already working in the possible career that your child thinks they are interested in.


February 6, 2002

When my son TJ was age 13 I took him to the courthouse to interview two lawyers.

Since TJ had decided that he wanted to be a lawyer, I thought it would be a good idea for him to observe what Lawyers do. We spent the morning in Judge Mill’s courtroom.  We listened intently as the District Attorney (Prosecutor) presented each non-jury, criminal justice case. Cherokee County has one main District Attorney, but much assistance.

We sat as close to the front as possible. In fact we tried to sit in the front row, but the bailiff came over and informed us we were required to sit in the second row.

After spending the morning in court we interviewed two lawyers.  The first lawyer TJ interviewed had  been practicing law for 28 years.  The other lawyer was much younger and had been a lawyer for 3 years.  It’s good to interview someone who has been doing that particular career for a long time as well as someone who is new at it.  It was interesting how different their answers were.

Below are the two different interviews that TJ conducted that day:

TJ’s interview Questions:

Answers from Robert Bishop

1. How long have you been practicing law? – 28 years

2. How old were you when you decided to become a lawyer? – 21 years old.

3. How many death cases have you been involved in? – One

4. Do you enjoy being a lawyer?  Why or Why not? – Yes, because I am able to help people when they are at the lowest point of their lives.

5. If you had to do it over again would you?  – Yes

6. What character qualities do you feel are necessary for lawyers? – Arrogance (confidence), determination, like to work hard, financial support for your education.

7. What’s the most difficult thing about being a lawyer? –  Too many cases and not enough time.  Lots of paperwork.  Time pressure.

Note: He has been involved in one case where his client was given the death sentence and Robert Bishop won that case.  The case lasted 10 months and 10 days.  But his client lives today, due to his expertise as a lawyer.  Mr. Bishop really opened his heart and shared with me how he used to enjoy being a lawyer more in his younger years than he does now.  How 28 years ago there used to be a respect and integrity that was associated with being a lawyer, but now days that is not the case.

Answers from young lawyer:

8. How long have you been practicing law? – 3 years.

9. How old were you when you decided to become a lawyer?  – 19 years old.

10. How many death cases have you been involved in? – None.

11. Do you enjoy being a lawyer?  Why or Why not?  – No, too much expense.

If you had to do it over again would you? Why or Why Not? – No. School bills too high.

Here I am making 40,000 a year and I am paying too much a month towards my schooling.  When I look around at some of my friends who have gone into other professions like selling insurance, they are making the same as I am but they don’t have to pay any school tuition bills, because they got their license through correspondence courses.”

12.  What’s the most difficult thing about being a lawyer? – Too hard to work your way up the ladder.

The Second Lawyer TJ interviewed had only been a lawyer for 3 years.  TJ used the same set of questions but this lawyer gave him all different answers.  It was interesting to see the different perspectives of the young lawyer and the older lawyer.

Soon after this interview, TJ did his “Walk to Manhood” , which I will explain  further in future blogs.  Jim Anderson, the man who walked a mile with TJ and talked to him about career, said that TJ was really pumped about the interview that he got to do with the two lawyers, and that he talked about it a lot as they walked the mile together.

I implemented this strategy on many other occasions as well, but will include them in future blogs, I don’t want my blogs to get too long for people to read.


About Professional Parenting

Wife, mother, motivational speaker, author, counselor and teacher. I have 3 adult children and a husband of 27 years. For the past 13 years I have served the youth and their parents at Liberty Church in Marietta Georgia. I loved everything about being a mom: I loved the terrible twos, and the terrifying teens, and the cake in my hair, and the spilled punch. I loved the chaos, the noise, the craziness of tons of kids. It was everything I wanted in my life. I loved that constant overwhelming feeling of someone being completely dependent on me as well as that joyful, aweful feeling of watching that same someone just 18 years later leave me and go off in the world on their own. Interests: * Christian * wife * mom * child training * pre-teens * teenagers * youth group * young girls * young women * seasoned sisters Favorite Books: * "Praying for Your Adult Children" By: Stormie Omartian * "Life on the Edge" By Dr. Dobson (Note: This was required reading for my kids when they turned 13.)
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