Failure to Launch or Soaring Solo – Pt. 1

Instilling Vision: Part One

God’s Word tells us to “Train up a child in the way THEY should go.” What that means is: What is your child’s “bent”? What are your child’s unique giftings?  It really helps to understand your child’s personality type. When my kids were young, I listened to Pastor John’s Personality Series. It gave me insight into how to discipline them, as well as what possible career choices  might fit their personality “bent.” I kept a file in my computer and when I noticed something that my sons were good at, I would go to my computer and add it to the list. Or when TJ mentioned something that he might want to pursue as a career, I would add it to the list.

I believe the ideal time to start instilling vision into your child is between the ages of 8-12. I started this list when he was 13, but wish I had started it earlier. A parent of discernment is able to see their child 10 years down the road. Get them thinking about career choices way before they are ready for a career. What you are doing is planting seeds. That way when they turn 18 or 21 they are ready to move out, because those seeds of vision that you have been planting for the past 10 years can grow and blossom. Here is the list that had for my son TJ:

Possible Career Options for TJ

TJ’s personality type in order from most to least  is:

D. S. C. I.

  1. Accountant  / CPA
  2. Financial planner
  3. Financial investor
  4. Family Counselor
  5. Lawyer
  6. Sports Therapist
  7. Business Owner / Real Estate Owner
  8. Music Store owner
  9. Take over business from someone else.

TJ is now 21 and is working for the top seller in Keller Williams Real Estate.  The above list was made from things TJ said to me as well as things that I noticed about him. For example, from a very young age he loved the game of Monopoly and would win nearly every time we played. I’m not surprised that he’s working in Real Estate today. So pay attention to those types of things in your kids.

Check back in tomorrow for Part Two!


About Professional Parenting

Wife, mother, motivational speaker, author, counselor and teacher. I have 3 adult children and a husband of 27 years. For the past 13 years I have served the youth and their parents at Liberty Church in Marietta Georgia. I loved everything about being a mom: I loved the terrible twos, and the terrifying teens, and the cake in my hair, and the spilled punch. I loved the chaos, the noise, the craziness of tons of kids. It was everything I wanted in my life. I loved that constant overwhelming feeling of someone being completely dependent on me as well as that joyful, aweful feeling of watching that same someone just 18 years later leave me and go off in the world on their own. Interests: * Christian * wife * mom * child training * pre-teens * teenagers * youth group * young girls * young women * seasoned sisters Favorite Books: * "Praying for Your Adult Children" By: Stormie Omartian * "Life on the Edge" By Dr. Dobson (Note: This was required reading for my kids when they turned 13.)
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2 Responses to Failure to Launch or Soaring Solo – Pt. 1

    • Hi Candra,

      Well, I Kim (my editor) and I were having numerous error messages, and then we had a nude photo of a lady show up next to one of my blogs. When we contacted blog spot they said that did allow “adult contest” on their sight. Since many of my teenagers from Madd Monday follow my blog, I just felt like God was telling me to move. Madge suggested Word Press. b/c they do not allow adult content or nude photos.

      I can’t say that I really like the my new home only because I feel like I’m having to start over. I’m afraid that I am going to lose many of those who followed me on blog spot. I was just getting to learn blog spot, and now I having to re learn Word press. I really should not be complaining, since I have such wonderful support from Kim and you. I guess there are things I liked about blog spot and hopefully I will learn to like Word press once I learn it.

      Oh well, I guess this is where I will stay until some other tech. comes out that’s better. I love your blog you are so creative, I feel inspired whenever I visit your blog.



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